Because you deserve it, just like me. ❤ One of my favorite aspects of my solo-polyamorous existence is I can live a whimsical, carefree life filled with everything I want to do. If one of my crushes wants to cook me calamari in my kitchen at 11:00 PM, and I'm…

Embracing each moment is sometimes the only way to find comfort when the future is uncertain. Right now, many facets of my life are complicated. The hot-cold budding relationship with our "new normal" lives after covid is exhausting enough. Think about it for a moment; despite a ruthless pandemic waging…

An experience led me to understand some "grey areas" of non-monogamy. I have experienced a lot these thirty-seven years, and I take my knowledge and write about everything. …

Frequent texting doesn’t necessarily strengthen your new relationships, and it may cause tension within existing relationships in your life — One of my best friends is engulfed in New Relationship Energy (NRE) again, and I'll be honest, it's tough for me to watch everything unfold. It always is when I am a bystander and view everything from a different vantage point. She's in NRE and quickly jumped into a new…

My mantra: even though I can have multiple partners, it does not mean everyone is a good match for me. — Dating is abysmal here. When I think about how many variables are involved in being compatible with someone else, it feels like I'm on a quest for the holy grail. I want passionate, engaging, witty, and fun potential partners that share some of my interests. I want to keep my…

NOW is the best time to let old friends know you miss them. Next year will be the twentieth anniversary of my graduation from high school. It feels so weird to type that statement. In some ways, it doesn’t feel so long ago. Although genetics do not have much to…

A case study in reading between the lines and choosing which questions to ask — Two months ago, I celebrated my birthday, which means it's twenty years since I first embraced polyamory. I began my journey in an open marriage and evolved into my current solo polyamorous, self-partnered lifestyle. Years of wisdom garnered from years of mistakes, and I've gained a lot from conversations and…

It’s the last fifteen minutes of May. May is Mental Health Awareness Month. I wrote this in 2016 on a different site, and it’s still very accurate and meaningful. Since that year, I’ve made working on my mental health a priority. I’ve made tremendous progress; I’m healthier. I see trusted…

We can go on adventures together, even if I’ll never love you. — As a solo-poly, self-partnered person, I spend a considerable chunk of my personal life, when not with my friends, alone. I live, sleep, eat, write, sing, play music, and craft in solitude. I’ve completed years of therapy and self-work, and as an artistic person, I feel freer than ever to…